It's always a new day!

Good Morning, or whatever is the appropriate greeting to you, in your part of the world.

Have been up early; took our 'puppy' out; and am now enjoying my wonderful second cup of coffee!

We all slept well last night! Was a much needed bittidz!

Alan's Dad was up a tidbitz earlier also, got himself dressed; and by the time he came downstairs, his cereal and bananas, toast with homemade marmalade (nade by our next door neighbour), apple juice & am pills, along with a cup of tea & milk, was ready for him. He is in better spirits today; and at the moment, he is watching the World News on T.V. and appreciating his cup of tea. He said he 'feels safe' here; and with us. That is all to the good. However, when his wife does pass away, he will be considered as a 'crisis situation'; and will be moved into a 'home'; who will be better served to attend to his 24/7 medical & supervisory needs. Plus the 'home' is 'kind' to its inhabitants; and we took both him and his wife there last summer to check it out for future living. They thought it was very nice. Meanwhile, we are doing the best we can for him; and at least, he will only be a tid 5 minutes away from where we live. Alan will be seeing him almost every day; or as much as possible; and we will have him over here too. He can be very sociable; 'gift of the gab'; much like his son! LOL!

Have come to the conclusion, that eventhough he has severe dementia; and it is becoming worse with each passing day, that he should be treated with respect, kindness, humility, PATIENCE, compassion, love, caring, and be encouraged to live as 'normally' as possible. ie his cup of tea & breakfast, that he is up and dressed for; his dinners should be good and a glass of wine does wonders too! He likes to be included in the family. As I said, if our abode had more space, we would have him in his own lovely room; with his things, and a live - in caregiver in another room. Much reminds me of "My Three Sons"...loved Fred McMurray as the Dad; and the grandfather was a classic! 'If it were a perfect world', that would be great if we had 2 more bedrooms; because it would work, I believe. I have been told that no, he is truly better off in a 'home' regardless...He is. However, if 'it were a perfect world', I would endeavour to make that possible.

We are just playing everything by ear. And yes, we do live each and every day at a time. That is the best and only way....however, even at bit times like this, can be difficult; but He is the Solution. Everything is in His Hands; and we are leaving it to Him to take care of it ALL. We are anticipating the passing of Alan's Mum at anytime; however, even when the moment happens, will we be "ready" to face that stark reality?

It is my role to keep everything (with His Help and Guidance) 'calm'; to make sure the 'home front' and 'burning fires' are maintained well. The 'buffer' when needed. We do know that the Dad will NOT take the death well, when her time comes....that is why the 'home' deems it as a 'crisis situtation'.

We are working out the 24/7 caregiving schedules. Also for the Dad; because he will be staying / living with her; once the 'sofa bed' arrives. A further 'newsbit' Alan and one of his siblings spoke on the phone last night; and it was a much better dialogue. In a 'tidshell', the sibling was treating Alan as a human being. The Mum would like to SEE the sibling, face to face; NO PHONE CONVERSATIONS. So, we shall see what happens. Alan was very gentle on the phone with the sibling; and at the same time, has no hesitation to 'go to a fight'; if required, to put things 'right.'

Tidbit - Lean on Him always, to help you cope with whatever siuation befalls you.

Bittid - ASK Him to uplift your spirits and to carry your burdens. That being said, you, yourself become a lot stronger and experience a CALM within. I love the above photo image; to me, it says much!

Bye for now. God Bless.