Saturday 16 February 2008

Flowers!


Good Afternoon, or whatever is the appropriate greeting to you, in your part of the world.

Well, it has been a 'quiet' day, thus far! Last night, I think we all fell asleep, like tired tid puppies! Alan's Dad is having some time to himself; trying his bit best to 'adjust' to the new situation.

The minister was here yesterday; I met him; very lovely man; then the 'out of town' sibling soon came in, along with the grandson (which was a surprise and unexpected visitor). I thought it wise for me to not be present at that time; one less body to overwhelm the Dad etc. The sibling kept 'pushing' his agenda; to have the other 2 siblings (who were waiting in the car in the visitor's parking area) to come in to see the Dad; and then take him out to dinner. That is the last tidbitical thing the Dad wanted to do!

The Dad wishes to 'stay put'; and was very clear that he did not want to see the other 2 siblings or go out. He has since said, that he would see the other siblings; BUT, one at a time, AND, HERE, with Alan present. That is reasonable enough at this time.

It would appear STILL, that the siblings are blythely going about 'their' business. It is 'Business, as per usual'; goes the saying. They have certainly not paid any attention to the repeated requests. The sibling(s) disregarded the Mum's wishes yet again...ie at Christmas, when the Mum did not wish to see the siblings; and 'they' foisted themselves anyway on the Mum; (in an earlier post) and then when the Dad did not wish to see the 2 'in town' siblings yesterday. I guess, because the Dad has dementia; 'they' can just automatically ignore his thoughts and feelings. Pretty sad bittidical state of affairs. Even, after the fresh overnight passing of the Mum, this type of 'behaviour' is glaringly apparent!

Alan is not excluding the siblings; yesterday was just not good timing for the Dad; plain and simple.

Before I 'forget'; I would like to take this opportunity to thank my family (ie my children) for their flowers and kind words of encouragement to both Alan and I. We very much appreciate your generosity of spirit; and we look forward to enjoying you very much, in our lives. Also, a thank you to friends, for your kindness at this time.

Tidbit - Genuineness is the key. Like I may be faced with Alan's siblings who may be 'nicey nicey' with me; but, not to Alan. Hmmmmm. And eventhough, I am doing my best to behave 'cordially', I may say with a firm gentleness: 'Please do not bother to 'fakeroo it' with me; would rather witness your hostility or whatever, instead of 'covering' it up with me etc. In other words, no "B.S." Am sure most of you know what that stands for.

Bittid - LOVE CONQUERS ALL. I know He has a Solution already in place for us all! And, once again, as with each passing day - 'Praise Him in All Things'.

Right now, we are just doing what we need to do; and ALL with His Guidance. When there is more to add, will do so.

Love the above photo image of the daffodils. Bright yellow and cheery. However, we have also been Blessed with beautiful 'indoor' flowers from my children: fresh pink tulips, white budding freeschia (sp?), peaceful lillies, splendid coral gerbera, and lots of vivid greens! It is a dull, dark, and dreary day today; so these 2 bouquets are a 'breath of fresh air!' Also, Alan's long stemmmed dozen red roses are truly gorgeous! So, THANK YOU again!

Also, a dear family friend expressed today to Alan; her support re: trials and tribulations; that, 'You'll get time to mourn your mother a bit down the road' True; because there has been no time; with everything else going on; and all at once. However, Alan is rejoicing in her life; because, that is how his Mum wants us to be. That is such a comforting thought; and once again, she passed away on Valentine's Day. LOVE Conquers All!

God Bless.

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