Thursday 7 February 2008

Go the extra mile!


Good Afternoon, or whatever is the applicable greeting to you, in your part of the world!

It has been a full morning / afternoon! Alan currently is at our old apt; where he is standing by; awaiting for the hospital ambulance that is bringing his Mum. He is also meeting with the care givers; and getting things organized for 24/7 help.

Have been in touch with a tid of utility companies; ie the heat, the electricity, phone, and the cable; so that 'things' are as smooth a transition as possible. The cable will be hooked up tomorrow.

Also, have just ordered a 'sight unseen' (save for the black and white fax) 'sofa bed' (a "Manager's Special!" on sale); that will be useful for Alan's Dad or the overnight nurse. We have a queen size bed for the bedroom; which Alan will be 'hauling over' later this afternoon. Yet to be determined who will be in the bedroom; whatever makes the most feasible sense. Alan's Mum will be on a hospital bed in the living room; which overlooks the park; and it is a beautiful and peaceful setting. There are expansive open windows; as if you are immersed in a botanical huge lush garden! The 'sofa bed' will be a much welcomed addition; most likely for the 24/7 caregivers. Our old apt is one big room; with a cosy alcove; which is where the sofa bed will be. We are hopeful the 'sofa bed' will be delivered this coming Saturday!

Alan's Dad is naturally taking this all very hard; and with severe dementia, this does not help the situation. However, we are doing the best we can, with what we have to work with. He will be going to see his beloved wife later today; and most likely will be back here for dinner and to spend the night with us. We need to have the bed arrangements in place; ie first for the caregiver and then for the Dad. 'One thing at a time'.

A tidbit piece of irony. One of Alan's siblings called today; (I was not near the phone; however an actual message was left) and wanted to know the state of the Mum's health; and that an update would certainly be most appreciated; that sort of 'lordy lordy' bittid. 'Well', Alan has diligently tried to be in touch with the siblings; one of them hung on up him (as mentioned in an earlier & recent post); and the one today, has not been very 'receptive' either. (diplomatically put - hmmmmm???). Blog about trying to 'twist and turn' things around, to make it look as if Alan is the 'guilty one' etc; and not giving them updates. AND, he is merely following his Mum's last wishes; and she does not want anything to do with the siblings. She is dying of a broken heart; as also mentioned in an earlier blog. Her cancer has aggressively come back; and because of the horrid behaviour of the siblings, stress has ravaged her body; thus adding to her demise.

Once again, to the siblings: - SHAME ON THEM! By their ' words, actions, and deeds', they have convicted themselves.

Tidbit - "Go the extra mile!" Alan is following his Mum's wishes; right down to the last bittid. ie She wants to die in peace and dignity at this 'green' location; so we are 'going all out' to make her last days on earth, a wonderful place. We know that she will be going to a better place; once she leaves this earth.

Bittid - "Go out well" - that is what Alan's Mum is going to do! Also, she will be given a 'grand going out well' send off!

Bye for now. God Bless.

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