Feb 14/08 - Valentine's Day

Happy Valentine's Day again!

Hope you are all enjoying a nice one! Ours, has been a bit poignant and one Valentine's Day, we will not ever forget. And with everything else happening, I have received a dozen beautiful long stemmed red roses from Alan!

Alan's Mum is 'passing away', as I write for a tid. Alan has been outstanding; in dealing with everything! The 'Sibling Saga' is still 'lurking'; but, at least, we know that we have done our best for Alan's Mum. However, MORE importantly, Alan has honoured HER final wishes. Alan took his Dad for a haircut; and the Dad is pretty exhausted with all the 'goings on'. Right now, he is sleeping; and, on freshly washed sheets. A haircut and clean sheets help a bittid!

I have made our abode 'ready' for whomever. ie soups, casseroles, buns, salads, fruits, cookies, coffee, tea, pop, beer, wine, whatever suits. The siblings, both 'in towners' and 'out of town' ones, have been invited to our home, both by Alan and his Dad. So, it will be interesting, won't it, to see who turns up? ie today, or within the next short while. Hmmmmmm. The Memorial Service most likely, will be held next week. The 'out of town' sibling may show up to see the Dad today. Apparently, this sibling is in town 'indefinitely'.

Currently, Alan has been given a list of people to call re: his Mum's passing; and he is handling that right now. She wanted her Memorial Service, with no fuss, and in the small Chapel. Well, she was / is a much loved human being; and the Minister (of their choice, who saw her today) knows, that her Service will have to be held in the Church; because there will be a lot of people, who will genuinely miss her. The Mum is still alive; but barely. She is in a very similar 'comatose' state like my Mum, who passed away 2.5 years ago. It does not seem that long ago...feels more like yesterday to both Alan and I.

Am doing my best to remain 'neutral'; however, not easy. 'Neutrality', in regards to treating the siblings with Grace and Compassion. I do not know any of the siblings; but then, they have gone out of their way to not have much, if anything to do with their brother, (primarily the 2 "in of towners") for all these years. As mentioned in an earlier blog, Alan has been like a "Joseph, with his coat of many colours". HOWEVER, if the siblings behave rudely (very snarly) to me, or to their brother, in my presence, I will have a few, but CHOICE words for them. The CALM words of 'WISDOM' will be from Him. He knows exactly what has gone on, what is the TRUTH, and what IS.

Tidbit - Confidence, and a CALM is good.

Bittid - Rely on Him for Direction and FOLLOW His Guidance.

Alan's 'out of town' sibling just arrived. Well, I hope it will be a better visit than yesterday.

Will write later on.

God Bless.