Here is to Mothers!

We spent the morning and afternoon with Alan's Mum. She is currently in an old Age Rest Home; and the "home" is sorely lacking. She is a very invigorating woman; and we are going to search for another place for her and her husband to live out their final days. Alan's oldest sister "put them in there"; and there, they have been literally "left"- in "jail". It is a place where you almost pray to die; because it is more for the dead, than for the living. There, you simply exist. Bleak, bleak, bleak.

Alan's Mum is an extra special person. Alan is very fortunate to have such a wonderful Mum like her. Alan and I married 4 yrs ago; and sadly, we have not had a lot of interaction with Alan's parents; until recently. When they were here the other day, it was just awesome! Alan's Dad is still feeling great about it! For those readers who are "new", please refer to the Tues, April 3rd blog for a tidbitadate.

Tidbit - Make it a point to "uplift" others as often as you can. You would be totally amazed at how much better you would feel! Take yourself out of the equation for a tid of a bit; and help someone else. Also, if you are feeling out of sorts with bits of tids, this is the best thing you can do for yourself; because you too, will be uplifted! And, you have helped someone else feel better! Be it family or friend(s) or stranger(s). Even a "foe", do something nice - within reason, there.

We took my mother-in-law to Costco; and she had a blast! She utilized the cart, not only to place her "goodies" in; but also to help support her balance while walking. She was like a "new" person; by the time we took her "home". We are making inquiries about a certain "home" location; however with Easter looming in upon us, we have to wait until Tuesday, the 10th.

We visited also with Alan's Dad in his tidbit room, when we returned to the "home"; and he was so joyful to see us, and the milk chocolates we brought him. Hmmmmm. was it the chocolates that brought a smile to his face? LOL!

Did not do what we had planned to accomplish today; but sometimes, there are just other priorities. And this is one of them! Life is too short; you just never know when your time is up. I just blogged about that very subject, a couple of days ago.

My daughter, is now a lovely young mother of twin boys; and both Alan and I are delighted for her and her dear husband! We hope too, that there will be an eventual acceptance by them towards us, to genuinely include us more in their lives; as we would love to be an intricate active part in their exciting new lives together. Sadly, it would appear, we are not on their list of 'people to see, places to go, things to do' at this stage.

I just hope they do not leave things too late; ie when we are "sputtering" and / or "fluttering" about in our old age; or worse, when we have already left this world. That is a wee bit of tid advice. And, also, to all those, who have gone through or are going through such experiences.

My son, is a wonderful "uncle" to the "boyz". We welcome a warm and sincere relationship with him too.

I am sharing some deeper tidbitz; because this happens in so many families. I think if we all become more aware of "life being too short", we would all be in a much better situation. There would be more openess and general happiness in family relationships.

The other side of the coin, you can not push for a sincere friendship either. If it isn't there; I guess you have to bide your time; until such a time permits to have a genuine acceptance and appreciation. Alan's family clan have a motto (1000 years old at least!)"We force no friend; and we fear no foe". That is a very true saying.

Both my parents have passed away; my Mother back in July/05. And then, when we see Alan's parents; hmmmmm. Makes you stop and think for a tid of a bit. So, we are going to do everything we can to help them enjoy their final days in a more humane and kinder environment. We have a small summer place; we would like to take them there this summer; - depending on their health needs etc. We know they would LOVE it!

I suppose I should put a good word in for Fathers. Without them, no children. Brilliant, I know! LOL!

However, my hat goes off to parents; they do the best they can. Sometimes they make mistakes; but they are people too.